Men are visual creatures; we base a lot of our initial judgements on a woman’s looks long before we get to know her as a person.There’s no point in trying to get around this, so you may as well learn how to use this to your advantage.You see, when it comes to online dating, men will look at profile with attractive photos and then use the profiles to retroactively justify (or revise) their attraction.
I’ll be the first to admit: I write most of my articles with a male audience in mind. well, I’m a guy, and a lot of my advice is naturally going to be coming from a male perspective and male experiences. As a general rule, women are more socialized towards being willing to ask for help when trying to improve their chances with guys.
Men, on the other hand, are told that they exist in binary states; either they’re good with women or they aren’t.
There are fewer outlets for dating advice for guys than there are for women.
That being said, I I just joined Ok Cupid on your recommendation, and I have to say you were very right about it being a buyer’s market for ladies.
I was just wondering if you have any online dating profiles tips for girls.
Should I message some of the guys that seems interesting? because it comes down to a number of differences in male and female psychology and sexuality.
Or just weed through the messages that may come in. At it’s ultimate base, dating is the evolved equivalent of a mating dance as men and women are trying to determine whether or not they would want to reproduce with each other.
When we go through the motions of dating, we’re evaluating one another on a number of levels – physical attractiveness and facial symmetry as indicators of health and desirable traits, the ability to provide for young and to protect the young from predators and raise them to sexual maturity.
In theory, it should be fairly simple; dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, 10 minutes of squishy noises and then a whole lot of controversy as to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously. Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to put the effort into the profile.
But because we had to go and evolve and develop complex brains and societies, we had to go and make it all complicated and shit; what used to be instinctual has become confusing, and we end up overanalyzing it…if a woman is interested in a guy, shouldn’t she be willing to make the first move – after all, it physical at first, or can there be an emotional connection as well? Your online dating profile is your verbal equivalent of a peacock’s lustrous plumage When you’re writing your profile, think about the sort of guy you’re looking for; while guys in general are wider ranging in the types they’re willing to date (or bang), there will be plenty who have a narrower focus. As I’ve advised guys before, if you want a type, you have to be able to show yourself as someone who that type would be attracted to; think if it as proving that you know how to speak their language.
One would think that when everybody is working at a step or two removed from the immediacy – via online dating – those questions can still crop up and make people want to throw their hands up and scream in frustration. You just have to understand how guys think and how to make that work for you. If you want a particular kind of guy, you’re going to have to know what looking for. If you like nerd-boys, mention your own geeky interests.