The point is that the guys who don’t get responses shouldn’t take it personally, chances are that if they approached me in real life, I’d gladly chat with them and maybe they would even be a better match for me.So I apologize in advanced if my advice comes off as harsh or dismissive of the guys that have reached out to me.Getting many messages and only having the resources to respond to a select few, forces me into becoming very selective.
So in the mean time, I thought it might be helpful to share some tips based on what’s likely to quickly turn me off to a person’s profile. People are attracted to others who look happy and like they are having fun, because we want to be happy and having fun.
Disclaimer: This is purely based on my personal experiences and preferences. Above all else – as a guy trying online dating, the last thing you want is to look angry or intimidating!!!
It’s very possible that what turns me off about a dating profile might not bother some one else. Just by being on the site you already need to be working against a girl’s anxious suspicion that you might be a total creep.
But I think I’m a pretty typical gal, so there’s a good chance other girls feel the same way I do. The last thing you need is anything in your profile that is going to confirm that fear! Be the best looking person in your pictures Especially in your main photo, but ideally in all of your photos.
The quantity of prospective dates online is simultaneously the biggest advantage and disadvantage to online dating.
I am much more selective of who I respond to online than I am of who I would talk to in the real world, solely due to the sheer volume.
If I go out to a bar maybe one or two guys will approach me to strike up a conversation, which I’ll almost always engage in (unless they attempt some a-hole opener) because I’m a decent human being and open to engaging with other decent human beings. When I first started I wanted to respond to each person (unless they attempt some a-hole opener) because I’m a decent human being, and it seems decent to respond to another human being that reached out to you.
Unfortunately it quickly became apparent that the logistics of this simply did not work out.
One the major reasons I have an online dating account is because I don’t have a ton of free time.
So it ends up that for practical reasons, I probably respond to about 2% of the guys that contact me.
This 2% are the one’s that seem the highest quality/most attractive/most compatible from their profile.