Post separation adultery is the same as pre-separation adultery and can be a grounds for divorce. Texas may affect the enforceability of these statutes, but you don't want to be Virginia's test case do you? Emotions run even higher and further interfere with resolution when children are involved.
In addition, adultery, sodomy, and fornication are all still crimes in the Commonwealth of Virginia, and one doesn't want to make an already difficult situation more difficult by injecting a criminal charge into the mix (Note: the U. No parent wants to even think about being replaced.
Some children will react negatively to the new love interest.
Some will react negatively towards the parent with the new love interest.
Even if the children respond positively, children will form bonds with a parent's new love interest so the interjection of a new player into their lives needs to be carefully considered.
Even the most well adjusted child will be seriously affected by a divorce.
Many times the first new boyfriend or girlfriend does not stick around very long which means that the children experience another loss close on the heels of or during the loss associated with the dissolution of their parents' marriage.
Frankly, I instruct my clients that a love interest should not be introduced into the children's lives on any substantial basis until the relationship is very advanced and their is a reasonable certainly that this person is going to be in the children's lives for quite a while (such as a fiancee or a new spouse).
Even at this advanced stage, one should never have the parent stay overnight while the children are in the home until the parent is married to the person.
Many judges take very dim views of this sort of conduct and it can be outcome determinative in some local court rooms.
For the purposes of this post, I'm going to assume that the person isn't already involved in an extramarital relationship (say perhaps the one that led to the divorce) and that the husband and wife are separated and not already divorced.
For all of the obvious reasons, the majority of persons going through a divorce are very interested in moving on with their lives.
I say I approach this gently because the introduction of a new love interest can pose a number of problems across different spectra of the post-separation divorce process.