Do these depictions quietly affect who we choose to view as sexually appealing? Virginia would be a terrible one, and in principle, people of all ethnicities should feel free to date or marry one another.Cheerios recently released a commercial starring a black father, white mother, and their young bi-racial daughter as members of your average, honey-roasted-carbs-loving family. But interracial relationships become problematic when they not only reflect age-old stereotypes about the excessive masculinity or femininity of non-White races, but also when they ultimately serve to further privilege White people at the expense of minority groups.
When I was young, I remember my mom telling me once that she really had only four big hopes for me. I reminded her of this other day: “Remember that list you had for me back when? In baseball, that makes me a superstar.” ,” she retorted. Anyway, the conversation came up because we’d independently emailed each other an article recently published in the New York Times “Style” section, detailing the latest hot trend to hit the Times breakroom: Apparently, more and more Asian Americans are defying convention by…marrying Asian Americans.
“You do these four things and I will be happy,” she said. You see, based on a just-released Pew Research Center report, although Asian Americans are still more likely to outmarry than any other race — a full 28% of Asians marrying in 2010 wed a non-Asian spouse — this percentage actually represents a drop from 31% in 2008.
And four, marry a nice Taiwanese girl.” Thirty years later, and I’m two for four.
Increased interracial dating serves, for some, as strong, heartwarming evidence for the existence of a post-racial world.
With a significant jump in the percentage of newlywed couples in interracial marriages--from 3.2% in 1980 to about 15% in 2010--it's hard to believe that race-based restrictions on marriage were only completely invalidated in 1967.
Others, however, are quick to point out the race and gender imbalances behind interracial dating.My Chinese-American ex-boyfriend once pointed out an Asian woman and a white man locking hands as they left a store together in Times Square."I'd like that more," he whispered to me as he shook his head, barely hiding his disdain for the young couple, "but you never see it the other way around.No Asian man is considered attractive enough to be in that kind of relationship."While I certainly don't think interracial couples deserve to be looked down upon with disdain or bad mojo from curious onlookers, my former lover may have been on to something.According to a Pew report on intermarriage in the United States, "gender patterns in intermarriage vary widely"; in 2010, 36% of Asian female newlyweds married outside of their race, compared to just 17% of Asian males.Additionally, 24% of black male newlyweds married outside of their race, compared to a paltry 9% of black females.