Everyone has different emotional comfort zones and it is worthwhile thinking about how online dating, like any dating, could affect you emotionally.Whether you're an online dating veteran or this is your first time using online dating services, being aware of your emotions will make online dating safer, more successful and more fun!
While there isn't anything wrong with getting back in the saddle, being aware of your motivations in using online dating services will increase your chances of safe, successful online dating.
So ask yourself whether you're really looking for a long-term partner or just want someone to go to the movies with and know there's nothing wrong with the latter.
After all, online dating is the perfect way to meet someone to discuss the plot with and hopefully they'll explain what happened when you ducked out for more popcorn.
How would you feel and react if someone you had met through an online dating service gave an in depth account of their private life at the very beginning of your online dating communication?
Would you feel pressured to respond with a similar account of your own life?
How would you feel if someone you had met through online dating kept their profile visible on an online dating service after you had made some sort of commitment?Online dating is real dating and the associated risks to your emotional safety are also real.To ensure safe, successful online dating you must become familiar with your own emotional responses and identify your emotional boundaries to protect yourself and your online dating partners from being hurt.If something makes you feel uncomfortable, induces a sinking feeling in your stomach or upsets you in any way then examine, recognize and learn from that response; you've just found an emotional boundary!For example, if receiving lots of personal information from an online dating partner makes you feel uncomfortable and pressured into sharing your own information, you have indentified an emotional boundary relating to personal information.The next step is to define and discuss this boundary with your online dating partner which isn't as scary as it sounds.