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Emotional pain is emotional pain and from what I understand the overwhelming emotion in these cases is shame.
I heard an interview today with Theo Fleury, the former NHL star who's written his autobiography which details his abuse at the hands of his coach.
He said that the statistics are 1 in 6 men but he thinks it's probably closer to 2 in 6.
His focus now is on helping survivors to recover, and he stated that he gets about 100 emails per week from men who reveal their stories.
The ages of these men are anywhere from their 40's to their 70's - so they carry their secrets for a lifetime.
I've never (to my knowledge) been involved with a man dealing with this very serious issue, but I think that if I met one, I would not be scared away if I thought that he had a lot of great qualitites, as long as he was free of addictions and was in recovery.
Maybe this thread will die because it seems to be a taboo subject - but I hope not, because I think it's about time it came out of the closet.
I think that could be a problem for some women I suspect and maybe im wrong, I would suspect most men that were abused, usually has some sort of addiction? Its a interesting subject to discuss, I only know one friend who was abused when he was younger, and he has a problem committing in a relationship and we found out he basically was phucking every thing that had two legs every female from a swamp donkey to a hot girl. Those that cling to the victim mentality......usually have issues that make them not suitable for relationships.
Makes one wonder though...only guys I've ever known who have admitted to having been sexually abused as a child were subject is more taboo then women admitting to how many partners they have ACTUALLY had in their lives....j/sfrom personal experience.......those that have been sexually abused fall into 2categories. Those that cling to the survivor mentality....worked through their issues, do not blame every person they become involved with for their own past, and can lead healthy, normal, loving and sexually fulfilling relationships. To be honest it would make me nervous to date a man who was molested as a child.